As men regularly facing challenges, confusion, and pressure on numerous levels in life these days, we may well feel like gladiators battling numerous foes single-handedly. This is why the focus of our spring series of blog posts is, “In the Arena.” We want to show up, do well, provide for and defend those who are […]
We might like to think the American Church is racially united, but it’s not. In fact, as many have noted, Sunday morning is the most segregated time of the week in the U.S. This separation is due at least partly to the fact that Asian, Latino, black, and white Christians often have very different style […]
One priority compels us at Peregrine Ministries more than any other—connecting men in life-giving relationships with each other. Isolation breeds discouragement, self-condemnation and shame. Brotherhood feeds encouragement, hope and inspiration. We at Peregrine Ministries have seen the impact of this truth over the past months of social-distancing like no other time in our history. This […]
We have entered into the aftermath of an election day that has been on our horizon for many months. As I write this post, media outlets have just called the race for Joe Biden, though President Trump is certain to contest some of the state voting results. I’m sure all of us have hopes for […]
To confirm your likely observation, our blog series topic this fall is The Banner That Unites Us. That banner is the Kingdom of Heaven. This week I want to comment on being Kingdom Ambassadors. We may not realize it, but our spiritual influence is probably more subtle and also more impactful than we think. I […]
We are entering the Season of Light, the Light Festival, the Christmas season when so much of the world decorates trees, wreathes, streetlamps, and even homes, with spectacular displays of light. Even those parts of the world that may not traditionally be Christian do so. There is an evident way in which the world loves […]
The STEM school shooting in Highlands Ranch, CO is disturbing to all of us. We may differ in our convictions of what the main solutions to this scourge in our nation are, but I think we agree on at least three things: 1. These kinds of repeated trauma leave an enormous heart and soul wound […]
Perhaps you’ve seen the recent Gillette commercial about men being the best they can be. The phrase “the best a man can get” took me back to hazy “wonder years” when I wondered when I might need to shave anything at all.
As I watched the clip, it evoked similar beneath-the-surface feelings: recognition, conviction, inspiration and commitment. So I was surprised to hear and read that not everyone had the same positive impression of the clip as I did. In fact, I saw through one source that reactions against the commercial were 4:1 versus those that saw it as positive.
Those were my words when the first accusations against Bill Hybels, founder and senior pastor of Willow Creek, came out in the Chicago Tribune and Christianity Today last spring. My words were in response to a group of men who asked how it felt for me, knowing I had served on staff at the church for four years in the 1990’s.
Those words still hold true for me today; they are just stronger. As weeks have gone by more women have courageously stepped forward to reveal shocking stories of harassment, intimidation and inappropriate behavior they say they experienced from Hybels. He still denies the accusations and the elders are now re-investigating the claims, after months of their own denials and unkind characterizations against the women.
Rite of Passage. Western culture largely views these as age-based rights young adults automatically deserve once they hit a certain date. Depending on local laws 18 or 21-year olds are allowed to consume tobacco, alcohol, marijuana and pornography; they can now purchase weapons and ammunition. In most cases, this “right” is granted regardless of whether youths have benefited from any guidance in the inherent dangers of these practices nor any training in discernment in their use.
High school sports team and college fraternity hazing rituals involving sexual abuse, or deadly alcohol over-consumption, as we saw this week at Penn State and in 2013 at my own alma mater, Northern Illinois University, confirm the consequences of the absence of effective guidance in rites of passage.