We are entering the Season of Light, the Light Festival, the Christmas season when so much of the world decorates trees, wreathes, streetlamps, and even homes, with spectacular displays of light. Even those parts of the world that may not traditionally be Christian do so. There is an evident way in which the world loves […]
Those who know me, have heard me speak, or have read some of my blog posts, know I have a passion to see men (and women) freed from Shame. (I even capitalize the dang word because of its significance.)
I’m often reminded that the root of my passion about this subject is my own vulnerability to the message of self-condemnation, and disappointment in self, that rears its head on a regular basis.
Shame is the message that, not only did I do something wrong, but there is something wrong with who I am. Guilt is conviction about our behavior; Shame is condemnation about our identity. Conviction comes from the voice of the Holy Spirit. Shame is the condemning lie from the Enemy.
I know all of this. Yet I am still vulnerable. My guess is I’m not the only one. Because Shame returns.
“A rose by any other name would smell as sweet.” -Juliet trying to convince Romeo that names don’t really have much significance. While it’s true, a rose would still have its attractive qualities even if it were called “dandelion,” most of us hold special significance to some names. My middle name is Morgan, the same […]
I know a lot of men who get wrapped up in performance—work, sports, even community service or church attendance; competitiveness in any arena. This hard work can reveal an admirable sense of drive, responsibility and commitment. It can also reveal an underlying belief that our performance defines our significance. Or earns us points. For some […]
“Jesus called the crowd to him and said, ‘Listen and understand. What goes into a man’s mouth does not make him unclean, but what comes out of his mouth, that is what makes him unclean…But the things that come out of the mouth come out of the heart, and these make a man unclean. For […]
Have you noticed how frequently men will risk complete compromise of their values, their marriage and their reputation to pursue a short-term enticement? Perhaps you saw the former TV show To Catch a Predator, where a guy in a computer chat room thinks he’s talking to a young teen. He and the girl arrange a […]
Do we see ourselves as being men primarily committed to telling the truth, or men primarily committed to building relationships? Often it feels like the two are mutually exclusive: telling to whole truth might permanently harm a friendship. In Ephesians 4:15 we are urged to speak the truth in love. Apparently it IS possible. Experience […]
Ask just about any Christian man what God thinks of him and he’ll reply, “He loves me.” We learned this a long time ago; and it’s true. But with most men, if you were to probe a little further to explore if there are any other feelings God has toward them, they would add…”He’s disappointed […]
In his excellent book, From Wild Man to Wise Man, Richard Rohr reveals a good lesson for men from Luke 6:6-11. In this familiar story, Jesus heals a man whose right hand is withered only to encounter the condemnation of the Pharisees. He points out that there are three kinds of men in this story: […]
I have a decisive, clear-cut answer to that question: It depends. It depends on what kind of person you want to be, and what kind of world you want to live in. If we want to be people whose over-arching priorities in life are to pursue pleasure, power, possessions or prestige, then character truly doesn’t […]