Category: Fear

Man vs. Nature. No Question Who’s Boss

“A firestorm of epic proportions.” So spoke the Fire Chief of Colorado Springs, a man who has seen many fires in his career. What started as a relatively small smoke spiral at noon on a Saturday in a popular hiking spot in the foothills west of town, quickly expanded to a 3500 acre blaze moving […]

Feeling Grief; Choosing Joy

Yesterday was the third birthday I began with tears in my eyes. The first was when I was spanked by the delivering surgeon. The second was the “original” 9/11 ten years ago. In the years immediately following that awful day, it wasn’t unusual for me to receive a raised eyebrow, a grimaced face, or even […]

Why Guys Love Sports

In a previous post, I raised the question of the benefits of Competition in sports, or any arena, versus the benefits of Community. Sometimes competition can seem so self-centered; while community is so other-centered. Why is it then, that when I recently came across an article I tore out of an airline magazine, that I […]

Courage or Just Foolishness?

One of the qualities I see in men is a thirst for adventure. We seem to have a built-in longing for risk that results in a new experience or a special accomplishment. At it’s deepest level it’s a hunger for significance. It’s a partial answer to the question: Do I matter? I have this hunger. […]

3 Powerful, Fearful Men

We men like to think we are fearless, but when we are honest with ourselves we can admit to a number of fears that we often live with: fear of rejection; fear of loss; probably most of all, fear of failure. In John 18 and 19 we read of 3 men who, though powerful, experienced […]

Just Show Up

For over 35 years I’ve regularly been in speaking situations–whether one-on-one, small group or large gatherings. Almost every time I have hopes that the occasion will be life-changing, memorable, transformational. There’s probably nothing wrong with desiring a positive result. But I really have no right to conclude I know what the best result is. And […]

Getting Out of the Headlights

Not long ago I got together with a group of men who were good acquaintances, but hadn’t seen each other in a while. We wanted to catch up with each other’s personal lives, but I find that when you ask men, “Tell us what’s going on in your life,” they either respond with a deer-in-the-headlight […]