“Really, Craig? Do we really need another blog?”
I have a thing about blogs. I’m sorry, but many seem self-obsessed and ego-driven. And honestly, I’m not really that sorry. There are outstanding exceptions, of course, but for me many blogs smack of values that drive our culture. Values I’m opposed to.
I’ve already spent 5 decades being part of the Me Generation: we Boomers who were raised with a sense of privilege like no other generation in history. Add to that the entitlement-messages we are soaked in by advertising directed to Gens X and Y, and the result is a cultural motto – “It’s all about me” – that flies in the face of everything I believe about men.
It’s virtually impossible to ignore that rally cry given the barrage of messages we receive. Facebook allows us to promote our preferred image and life to the world; My Space does the same, just more immaturely; You Tube allows us to broadcast ourselves living it. The countless websites starting with “my” or “your” reinforce the tasty lie that we love to believe: the world revolves around my life. We are the center of the known universe, and the sooner the universe agrees, the better.
I disagree. My conviction is that the primary characteristic that distinguishes immature, worldly men from mature, godly men is our center of focus. Immature men believe the world rotates around them, that it’s “all about them.” Their perspective is self-centered. Mature men are convinced their life is not about them; on the contrary, their life is for others. Their perspective is other-centered.
To me, blogs often reinforce the immature perspective not the mature one. I know I’m wrong in making blanket judgments this way, I’m just saying. It seems the height of self-centeredness to assume the world wants to know every thought that crosses my mind. Whether or not they asked for it.
The September-October 2010 issue of Relevant magazine went so far as to say that “social technologies can build a subtle narcissism, exhibitionism, self-absorption and neurotic co-dependency.” I have to say: I think they have a point.
Yet, here I am writing my first blog post. Why am I doing so? Because in my less visceral moments, when I take some time to think it through rationally, I know this is now an accepted and effective way of communicating with a broad audience.
Several years ago I realized that I actually would like God to use me to influence men in a positive way. In the years since, I’ve become only more convinced that my concern for men, my conviction that they matter, and my passion to see them living out God’s calling in their lives, is a message that God uses. I think it would be wrong and selfish to keep it under a bushel.
So here I am writing yet another blog; with mixed feelings. I don’t want to be grouped with men whose values are the opposite of mine. But I’ve decided that I’m willing to risk being misunderstood, disagreed with, and even thought to be condescending or self-centered, in order to get a message out there that is founded in Scripture. My commitment is to express insights and observations that I believe will encourage and inform you in the crucial roles you live out every day.
The world desperately needs men who live for others, not themselves. Men, your life is not about you; neither is mine. It’s time we lived that way. That’s why I’m doing this.
My greatest joy in life is my family. I know, that sounds like the comment you’re supposed to make as a man and father. All I can say is I literally shake my head in wonder at the family I have: my wife Beryl; my daughter Barclay and son-in-law Vince, their four daughters, Bella, Brynn, Brooke and Blake; my son Alec, my son Conor and daughter-in-law Bonnie, their daughter Gemma and son Calvin. Every one of them is a genuine gift. Beyond that, I have a calling that I live out through Peregrine Ministries. It is to help men: Understand their identity in Christ, Embrace their role as men, and Live out their God-given calling in life. Bottom line is I’m convinced men matter and I want to help them live life on purpose.