Are You Constrained or Unleashed?

Posted by on Jan 22, 2015 in Character, Compassion, Courage, Leadership, Legacy, Significance, Transcendence | 0 comments

Not long ago I heard a speaker, sadly I don’t remember his name, say, “Don’t just give people rules to follow; give them values to believe in.” I think that is remarkably perceptive advice. Rules constrain people into obedience due to another person’s position of authority or ability to punish non-compliance. Values unleash a person to action based on what he or she believes in; they form a powerful connection with ideas or principles that matter on a heart level. At Peregrine Ministries, we guide and inspire men on their life journey, to help them leave a...

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Will You Wear A Mask This Year?

Posted by on Jan 6, 2015 in Character, Fear, God, Significance | 1 comment

So, I was enjoying a cup of coffee and conversation with a friend at Starbucks, when all of a sudden I was staring at Danny Devito and Jack Nicholson. I took a double-take. What in the world are they doing here? But on my third-take, I had a sense that something was wrong. While these men looked very much like the well-known movie stars, there was something just a little bit off, a little bit false, in their appearance. Curious, I went over to their table and said, “OK, you know why I’m here, who are you guys?” They gave me their cards and confirmed that they were celebrity impersonators....

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Prison Redemption

Posted by on Nov 25, 2014 in Anger, Character, Compassion, Forgiveness, Redemption, Transformation | 3 comments

I haven’t spent a lot of time in prison. But I vividly remember each visit. Last weekend I joined my friend, Ron, in a visit to the Arkansas Valley Correctional Facility, about 2 hours southeast of Colorado Springs. It wasn’t my first visit to a jail or prison, and just to be clear, none of them had anything to do with my misbehavior. When I was in high school my dad and I joined a pastor on a visit to Cook County Jail in Chicago, one of the largest and notoriously violent jails in the U.S. In 1998 I explored the possibility of involving men from Willow Creek Church in regular prison...

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Avoiding Highway D

Posted by on Oct 21, 2014 in Anger, Character, Redemption, Transformation | 20 comments

Having grown up in northern Illinois, I have a permanent memory of certain highway route numbers and the roads they pertain to: Rt. 68, Dundee Road; Rt. 83, Elmhurst Road; Rt. 21 Milwaukee Road, and so on. In Wisconsin they seem to have a partially different system, which is based largely on letters rather than numbers. Perhaps a Wisconsinite can inform the rest of us if there’s a hidden reason for that. Not long ago my brother-in-law, and I were chatting about how we respond to hardship and disappointment in our lives. I confess that, due to high expectations of myself, I’m vulnerable to...

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Legacy: The Impact We Leave Behind

Posted by on Jul 24, 2014 in Character, Heroes, Legacy | 0 comments

Every man I know is building a legacy, a reputation and impact, that will follow him and touch others. Relatively few men think about what that legacy will be…and what qualities in him will form that legacy. Yesterday, Pat Bowlen, the owner of the Denver Broncos football team, stepped down from over-seeing the team’s overall operations because of his growing struggle with Alzheimer’s disease. He led one of the most consistently competitive and successful corporations in the American football world for three decades. His most highly-regarded player ever, Hall of Fame quarterback John Elway,...

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How to Apologize

Posted by on Jun 9, 2014 in Character, Courage, Forgiveness, Redemption | 0 comments

I’ve commented before, (see “I’m Sorry”), about the poor apologies we see in public, where the perpetrator essentially says, “I regret if others may have taken offense at what I was construed as having said.” Or some other mangled nonsense that absolves them (or us) of actual responsibility. Giving a direct, clear apology at times seems to be a dying art. Not this example. It’s from Steve Coburn, owner of California Chrome, the horse that just missed winning horse racing’s Triple Crown—winning the Kentucky Derby, the Preakness and the Belmont,...

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