How to Apologize

Posted by on Jun 9, 2014 in Character, Courage, Forgiveness, Redemption | 0 comments

I’ve commented before, (see “I’m Sorry”), about the poor apologies we see in public, where the perpetrator essentially says, “I regret if others may have taken offense at what I was construed as having said.” Or some other mangled nonsense that absolves them (or us) of actual responsibility. Giving a direct, clear apology at times seems to be a dying art. Not this example. It’s from Steve Coburn, owner of California Chrome, the horse that just missed winning horse racing’s Triple Crown—winning the Kentucky Derby, the Preakness and the Belmont,...

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Glory and Ruin.

Posted by on Jun 5, 2014 in Character, Redemption, Transformation | 0 comments

I remember coming home from college on a 1972 weekend to find my mom standing at the ironing board riveted to the Watergate scandal hearings on TV. To those of us “of a certain age” the cast of characters lingers in our memories as if they are carved on a stone wall: H. R. Haldeman, John Erlichman, John Dean, Chuck Colson, John Mitchell and Jeb Stuart Magruder being some of those that stand out. Jeb Magruder recently died and as I read his story I thought, “Another example of glory and ruin.” Glory and ruin. It’s a phrase I often use to describe what lies in the...

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Boys: Just Defective Girls?

Posted by on Jun 5, 2014 in Character, Culture, Venus and Vegas | 0 comments

Man, I love it when sharp women “get” men and boys, without any hint of dishonoring their own gender. I say Men Matter all the time; and the same is true for women. They matter profoundly. Sadly our culture too often chooses to honor women by demeaning masculinity wherever it shows up. Women who are assured of their own value and gifts welcome the unique qualities that males offer, and the needs we have in order to be trustworthy, healthy contributors ot society. In 5 minutes, Christina Hoff Sommers of the American Enterprise Institute provides clear and persuasive evidence that...

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World’s Toughest Job

Posted by on May 7, 2014 in Character, Heroes, Venus and Vegas | 0 comments

Ever wonder about what the toughest job in the world might be? President of the U.S.? Brain surgeon? Sewer cleaner? Nope. Here’s pretty good evidence of the toughest: World’s Toughest Job.  

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Is This Heaven? No, It’s Augusta

Posted by on Apr 24, 2014 in Anger, Character, Legacy, Significance | 2 comments

Though I enjoy golf I rarely shoot as well as I think I should. The truth is for as little as I actually DO golf, I have no right to think I could shoot any better than I do. When I was younger I used to get pretty frustrated at my inconsistency— the unbelievably awful shot that would follow one of the best drives of my life. The “snowman” (8) that would follow a highly prized par. My temper was often ruining the joy of the experience for me, and sometimes for those along with me. Eventually I made a shift in thinking that helped. I identified three priorities for enjoyment in a round of...

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The One Common Characteristic

Posted by on Apr 24, 2014 in Anger, Character, Community, Culture, Significance | 4 comments

I recently returned to the States from 10 days in Africa to read that yet another act of shocking violence had taken place in an American high school. This time a 16-year-old student stabbed 21 fellow students and a security guard with a knife. Thankfully none were killed. Once again, the American public faced itself in the mirror and had to ask, “What is going on here?!” “How does this keep happening?” I was then stunned to read a quote related to this story in my local newspaper. One commentator said, “The one common characteristic in all of these cases is they are committed by students on...

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