Prison Redemption

Posted by on Nov 25, 2014 in Anger, Character, Compassion, Forgiveness, Redemption, Transformation | 3 comments

I haven’t spent a lot of time in prison. But I vividly remember each visit. Last weekend I joined my friend, Ron, in a visit to the Arkansas Valley Correctional Facility, about 2 hours southeast of Colorado Springs. It wasn’t my first visit to a jail or prison, and just to be clear, none of them had anything to do with my misbehavior. When I was in high school my dad and I joined a pastor on a visit to Cook County Jail in Chicago, one of the largest and notoriously violent jails in the U.S. In 1998 I explored the possibility of...

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Avoiding Highway D

Posted by on Oct 21, 2014 in Anger, Character, Redemption, Transformation | 20 comments

Having grown up in northern Illinois, I have a permanent memory of certain highway route numbers and the roads they pertain to: Rt. 68, Dundee Road; Rt. 83, Elmhurst Road; Rt. 21 Milwaukee Road, and so on. In Wisconsin they seem to have a partially different system, which is based largely on letters rather than numbers. Perhaps a Wisconsinite can inform the rest of us if there’s a hidden reason for that. Not long ago my brother-in-law, and I were chatting about how we respond to hardship and disappointment in our lives. I confess that, due to...

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A Whimsical, Unloving God?

Posted by on Sep 5, 2014 in God, Transcendence | 6 comments

I think one of the struggles that Christians and non-Christians share is understanding how God, who says He is the embodiment of love, allows the horrors we see around us virtually every day. I’ve heard many Believers say it’s the question they intend to “confront” God with when they get to heaven. It’s an honest question, the answer to which our finite minds can’t yet grasp. I confess I wrestle with it, too. Often. Whether or not it’s what will jump immediately to mind once we encounter the...

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When It Rains, It Hails

Posted by on Aug 29, 2014 in Anger, God, Transcendence | 10 comments

In the past few months I’ve grown increasingly weary by a series of unmet hopes and regular-life challenges. I recounted to a friend the technical disruptions that began first with this blog, and then the Peregrine website, being hacked; thousands of dollars being defrauded from two accounts (since reimbursed); email turning annoyingly glitchy and then entirely “dark,” disrupted for days. I also related the hail storm that caused thousands of dollars of damage to our car, the nine weeks of limitless repair delays, followed by an unbelievable...

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Saying Goodbye to Parents, Part VI (Oh, Craig. Don’t Do That.)

Posted by on Aug 8, 2014 in Fathers, Legacy, Self-sacrifice | 16 comments

My mother passed away in February, 2010, and my father in October, 2012, so you might think I’m done thinking about saying Goodbye to them. No, their memory and their touch on my life lingers. I’m reminded of them regularly. They were an integral part of my life for 57 years; it’s not surprising that it takes time to get used to their absence. (Click here to see my last post about Saying Goodbye) Sadly, every now and then I’m reminded of my impatience with them as they grew weaker and slower, and as their memories failed. In the summer of...

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Legacy: The Impact We Leave Behind

Posted by on Jul 24, 2014 in Character, Heroes, Legacy | 0 comments

Every man I know is building a legacy, a reputation and impact, that will follow him and touch others. Relatively few men think about what that legacy will be…and what qualities in him will form that legacy. Yesterday, Pat Bowlen, the owner of the Denver Broncos football team, stepped down from over-seeing the team’s overall operations because of his growing struggle with Alzheimer’s disease. He led one of the most consistently competitive and successful corporations in the American football world for three decades. His most highly-regarded...

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How to Apologize

Posted by on Jun 9, 2014 in Character, Courage, Forgiveness, Redemption | 0 comments

I’ve commented before, (see “I’m Sorry”), about the poor apologies we see in public, where the perpetrator essentially says, “I regret if others may have taken offense at what I was construed as having said.” Or some other mangled nonsense that absolves them (or us) of actual responsibility. Giving a direct, clear apology at times seems to be a dying art. Not this example. It’s from Steve Coburn, owner of California Chrome, the horse that just missed winning horse racing’s Triple Crown—winning...

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Glory and Ruin.

Posted by on Jun 5, 2014 in Character, Redemption, Transformation | 0 comments

I remember coming home from college on a 1972 weekend to find my mom standing at the ironing board riveted to the Watergate scandal hearings on TV. To those of us “of a certain age” the cast of characters lingers in our memories as if they are carved on a stone wall: H. R. Haldeman, John Erlichman, John Dean, Chuck Colson, John Mitchell and Jeb Stuart Magruder being some of those that stand out. Jeb Magruder recently died and as I read his story I thought, “Another example of glory and ruin.” Glory and ruin. It’s...

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Boys: Just Defective Girls?

Posted by on Jun 5, 2014 in Character, Culture, Venus and Vegas | 0 comments

Man, I love it when sharp women “get” men and boys, without any hint of dishonoring their own gender. I say Men Matter all the time; and the same is true for women. They matter profoundly. Sadly our culture too often chooses to honor women by demeaning masculinity wherever it shows up. Women who are assured of their own value and gifts welcome the unique qualities that males offer, and the needs we have in order to be trustworthy, healthy contributors ot society. In 5 minutes, Christina Hoff Sommers of the American Enterprise...

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Forgiveness—Even If You Don’t Love Me Anymore

Posted by on Jun 5, 2014 in Anger, Forgiveness, Redemption, Transformation | 2 comments

“Craig, I know I need to forgive you…but is isn’t today. I’ll let you know when it is.” So spoke a friend, I had seriously offended, once we met and he had a chance to clear the air of the anger he felt toward me. “The more I know, the less I understand All the things I thought I figured out, I have to learn again. I’ve been tryin’ to get down to the Heart of the Matter, But everything changes And my friends seem to scatter, But I think it’s about forgiveness, Forgiveness, Even if, even if...

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