How to Apologize

Posted by on Jun 9, 2014 in Character, Courage, Forgiveness, Redemption | 0 comments

I’ve commented before, (see “I’m Sorry”), about the poor apologies we see in public, where the perpetrator essentially says, “I regret if others may have taken offense at what I was construed as having said.” Or some other mangled nonsense that absolves them (or us) of actual responsibility. Giving a direct, clear apology at times seems to be a dying art. Not this example. It’s from Steve Coburn, owner of California Chrome, the horse that just missed winning horse racing’s Triple Crown—winning...

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Glory and Ruin.

Posted by on Jun 5, 2014 in Character, Redemption, Transformation | 0 comments

I remember coming home from college on a 1972 weekend to find my mom standing at the ironing board riveted to the Watergate scandal hearings on TV. To those of us “of a certain age” the cast of characters lingers in our memories as if they are carved on a stone wall: H. R. Haldeman, John Erlichman, John Dean, Chuck Colson, John Mitchell and Jeb Stuart Magruder being some of those that stand out. Jeb Magruder recently died and as I read his story I thought, “Another example of glory and ruin.” Glory and ruin. It’s...

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Boys: Just Defective Girls?

Posted by on Jun 5, 2014 in Character, Culture, Venus and Vegas | 0 comments

Man, I love it when sharp women “get” men and boys, without any hint of dishonoring their own gender. I say Men Matter all the time; and the same is true for women. They matter profoundly. Sadly our culture too often chooses to honor women by demeaning masculinity wherever it shows up. Women who are assured of their own value and gifts welcome the unique qualities that males offer, and the needs we have in order to be trustworthy, healthy contributors ot society. In 5 minutes, Christina Hoff Sommers of the American Enterprise...

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Forgiveness—Even If You Don’t Love Me Anymore

Posted by on Jun 5, 2014 in Anger, Forgiveness, Redemption, Transformation | 2 comments

“Craig, I know I need to forgive you…but is isn’t today. I’ll let you know when it is.” So spoke a friend, I had seriously offended, once we met and he had a chance to clear the air of the anger he felt toward me. “The more I know, the less I understand All the things I thought I figured out, I have to learn again. I’ve been tryin’ to get down to the Heart of the Matter, But everything changes And my friends seem to scatter, But I think it’s about forgiveness, Forgiveness, Even if, even if...

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Deep Impact

Posted by on May 20, 2014 in Fathers, Hope, Leadership, Legacy, Significance, Venus and Vegas | 0 comments

If you’re a man, I have good news for you, and I have sobering news for you. The good news: you matter. Despite the questions our society often raises about the value of men, and especially fathers (think Homer Simpson), you have a deeply important calling as a man. Your presence and your words have an enormous impact on those around you. The sobering news: you matter. Your words and presence have impact, but that impact can go either way. It can bring life, security and blessing into the lives of others, especially our wives and children—or...

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World’s Toughest Job

Posted by on May 7, 2014 in Character, Heroes, Venus and Vegas | 0 comments

Ever wonder about what the toughest job in the world might be? President of the U.S.? Brain surgeon? Sewer cleaner? Nope. Here’s pretty good evidence of the toughest: World’s Toughest Job.  

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Is This Heaven? No, It’s Augusta

Posted by on Apr 24, 2014 in Anger, Character, Legacy, Significance | 2 comments

Though I enjoy golf I rarely shoot as well as I think I should. The truth is for as little as I actually DO golf, I have no right to think I could shoot any better than I do. When I was younger I used to get pretty frustrated at my inconsistency— the unbelievably awful shot that would follow one of the best drives of my life. The “snowman” (8) that would follow a highly prized par. My temper was often ruining the joy of the experience for me, and sometimes for those along with me. Eventually I made a shift in thinking that helped. I...

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The One Common Characteristic

Posted by on Apr 24, 2014 in Anger, Character, Community, Culture, Significance | 4 comments

I recently returned to the States from 10 days in Africa to read that yet another act of shocking violence had taken place in an American high school. This time a 16-year-old student stabbed 21 fellow students and a security guard with a knife. Thankfully none were killed. Once again, the American public faced itself in the mirror and had to ask, “What is going on here?!” “How does this keep happening?” I was then stunned to read a quote related to this story in my local newspaper. One commentator said, “The one common characteristic in all...

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“Your Teaching Has Touched Us Deeply”

Posted by on Apr 14, 2014 in Character, Community, Culture, Redemption, Transformation | 1 comment

“I like to learn, but to be honest, I don’t like being taught. It makes me feel ignorant. That’s why I’ve never liked being taught by Westerners.” It’s a rare honor when a man from another culture trusts you enough to tell you the truth. After eight days in Burundi, four sessions of intensive mentoring, and more than two hours of in-depth honest feedback and dreaming about next steps, Francis honored my colleagues and me with the truth. Most Westerners have made him feel ignorant. Then he trusted us with...

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Burundi mentoring project- post 1

Posted by on Apr 5, 2014 in Community, Culture, Hope, Legacy, Significance | 0 comments

Travel went well. Landed in Burundi and arrived at our accommodations about an hour ago.  Spectacular view of the Austrian Alps and then thunderstorm over Congo as we landed. Glad to be...

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