When It Rains, It Hails

Posted by on Aug 29, 2014 in Anger, God, Transcendence | 0 comments

In the past few months I’ve grown increasingly weary by a series of unmet hopes and regular-life challenges. I recounted to a friend the technical disruptions that began first with this blog, and then the Peregrine website, being hacked; thousands of dollars being defrauded from two accounts (since reimbursed); email turning annoyingly glitchy and then entirely “dark,” disrupted for days. I also related the hail storm that caused thousands of dollars of damage to our car, the nine weeks of limitless repair delays, followed by an unbelievable claim against us (which we are contesting) for...

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Saying Goodbye to Parents, Part VI (Oh, Craig. Don’t Do That.)

Posted by on Aug 8, 2014 in Fathers, Legacy, Self-sacrifice | 14 comments

My mother passed away in February, 2010, and my father in October, 2012, so you might think I’m done thinking about saying Goodbye to them. No, their memory and their touch on my life lingers. I’m reminded of them regularly. They were an integral part of my life for 57 years; it’s not surprising that it takes time to get used to their absence. (Click here to see my last post about Saying Goodbye) Sadly, every now and then I’m reminded of my impatience with them as they grew weaker and slower, and as their memories failed. In the summer of 2011 my wife, Beryl, and my son, Alec, and I took my...

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Legacy: The Impact We Leave Behind

Posted by on Jul 24, 2014 in Character, Heroes, Legacy | 0 comments

Every man I know is building a legacy, a reputation and impact, that will follow him and touch others. Relatively few men think about what that legacy will be…and what qualities in him will form that legacy. Yesterday, Pat Bowlen, the owner of the Denver Broncos football team, stepped down from over-seeing the team’s overall operations because of his growing struggle with Alzheimer’s disease. He led one of the most consistently competitive and successful corporations in the American football world for three decades. His most highly-regarded player ever, Hall of Fame quarterback John Elway,...

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How to Apologize

Posted by on Jun 9, 2014 in Character, Courage, Forgiveness, Redemption | 0 comments

I’ve commented before, (see “I’m Sorry”), about the poor apologies we see in public, where the perpetrator essentially says, “I regret if others may have taken offense at what I was construed as having said.” Or some other mangled nonsense that absolves them (or us) of actual responsibility. Giving a direct, clear apology at times seems to be a dying art. Not this example. It’s from Steve Coburn, owner of California Chrome, the horse that just missed winning horse racing’s Triple Crown—winning the Kentucky Derby, the Preakness and the Belmont,...

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Glory and Ruin.

Posted by on Jun 5, 2014 in Character, Redemption, Transformation | 0 comments

I remember coming home from college on a 1972 weekend to find my mom standing at the ironing board riveted to the Watergate scandal hearings on TV. To those of us “of a certain age” the cast of characters lingers in our memories as if they are carved on a stone wall: H. R. Haldeman, John Erlichman, John Dean, Chuck Colson, John Mitchell and Jeb Stuart Magruder being some of those that stand out. Jeb Magruder recently died and as I read his story I thought, “Another example of glory and ruin.” Glory and ruin. It’s a phrase I often use to describe what lies in the...

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